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“I would move with you to Auckland and make your dreams come true. I’m fine with meeting your besties and following all of your plans. And then, obviously, we’re going to find proper jobs in our fields to survive there,” he promised. Suddenly, there were no more, “How was your day?” or “Can I see you soon?” messages waiting for me when I left work.
“I think we better stay as friends and nothing more than that, as I am now not looking for any relationship.”And just like that, he threw all of his promises out the window without even apologising for how much he had hurt me. Through detachment, you’d be able to attract space for genuine connections, removing yourself from the heartbreak of not being treated the way you deserve.In the context of healing from a heartbreak or a breakup, the first thing you shouldn’t avoid is your feelings.
In fact, they no longer exhibit the same behaviours and patterns that you initially fell for. After all, your ex is a human being, and they, like all of us, have flaws and shortcomings.As much as you don’t want to, listening to your friends’ perspectives can also provide valuable insights. They may have noticed things about your ex that you didn’t see or chose to ignore.
We do not entirely condone this behaviour, but if you feel compelled to do so, remember that you are not required to react to what your ex is doing with their life. After all, they probably do not care about yours.