Understanding how we have hurt the person allows for a restored relationship.We all mess up. We say the wrong thing. We do something wrong, and we hurt the ones we love.. But has it happened to you where the person is still upset despite apologizing and saying I'm sorry? Or maybe you've been hurt on the other end but felt that the person who hurt you doesn't really"get it.
Here we have where it all begins. We learn from our parents that we apologize and move on when we do something hurtful. But this nice little routine can be missed so much. And yet, in our humanness, even if we do not intend to, we all at some point hurt those we feel safest with. When that happens, we may say,"My feelings were hurt," but really, we are saying,"My sense of security with you was rocked, and what we had seems threatened." And that is why a cursory"I'm sorry" often doesn't cut it.